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The best way you can get to know me is to let you in into my world a little bit. Here is my story:
My motivation for getting involved with emotional wellbeing and peak performance was hugely fuelled by my hatred for anxiety and stress. I knew what it meant to be anxious and severely stressed. I knew how dreams and aspirations of a lifetime could be severely paralysed as a result of various anxiety-related disorders. I understood what it meant to lose someone you loved dearly to chronic stress disorders.
I began to struggle massively with anxiety when my beloved mother passed away, aged 53. My earliest memory of anxiety was when I was about 8. But I did not know that it was anxiety that I had at the time, as many people around me had not been exposed to the word anxiety. I had it rough as a kid, spending a lot of time on the streets looking for anything I could salvage for survival.
When my mother passed away, being the only parent in my world at the time, I was devastated emotionally, psychologically and physically. My dad was alive but was hardly around as he had other 9 wives to go and see.
As a young adult, I felt like my whole world would soon crumble before my very eyes. It became exceedingly difficult for me to envisage a life of hope without my mother who had lovingly and passionately given everything she had within her power to her six children.
She was all that I and my five siblings had and looked up to. As I mentioned, my father was never there for us. He had several other wives and concubines who always placed huge demands on his time, energy, far more than he himself could ever cope with.
As a result, my mother was the breadwinner of our own family. She did all she could to ensure that we did not starve. Many times we had to manage a meal a day for weeks, but overall, she always managed to avoid a starvation catastrophe.
My mother was a primary school headmistress in a tiny village on the outskirt of Oyo town, Nigeria. But in those days when the Nigerian Government would not pay the civil servants their salaries for months – sometimes up to six months at a stretch, it became extremely tough for her to put food on the table, provide a comfortable and warm shelter and clothe all her six children. But her unbelievable resilience, tenacity, willpower, courage and optimism saw us through several seasons of impending dooms.
In the midst of our hardship and ordeal as a family, one of the things that got stronger was the bond of love between all of us. She loved and cherished all of her children - as we stood very strongly by her and did our very best to help and encourage her through tough times.
In return, my three sisters, two brothers and I also adored her for her love and passion to give us the best she could afford. And she did just that – even beyond our wildest expectations.
When she passed away – undoubtedly because of the enormous amount of anxiety and stress she was constantly exposed to (her biological heart could no longer support the gigantic levels of pressures), my own personal anxiety took a huge leap in a wrong direction. Although I had always felt great anxiety as a child while wandering around the garbage and rubbish dumping sites looking for scraps or leftover food or while hunting for fish in a stream infested with poisonous snakes, it was nothing to compare with the anxiety I began to live with after my mother’s departure.
It was about a year later I realised I could not sustain my life in a perpetual state of anxiety, anger, and stress. Then I began to seek help. The church I attended at the time helped tremendously in my recovery. One thing that also really helped and has, ever since, continued to help was learning. Information is powerful. In my own experience, the more I learned about anxiety and stress, the less the fears and the stronger I got moving toward transformation.
I began to ask questions concerning the human capability to be anxious and stressed. I started to think about the potential solutions to transform anxiety-related disorders. I lived with them. I never enjoyed them. They cut short my mother’s life (this was my belief at the time) and made my life a hell on earth. Now I was on a mission to expose them and cut them off from our societies. This is now my passion for living - shedding light on the subject of anxiety that leads to greater transformation of mind, body, should and destiny. This passion has shaped my education over the years and the works that I do.
It was this passion to see people free from anxiety and stress that eventually led me to psychotherapy. I wanted to help. And ever since that is what I have been doing. I have continued to research the subject of worry, stress, and anxiety. I have treated several anxiety patients all of whom have achieved transformation at various levels have gone on to live life to the full.
As a result of my relentless research and personal development on the subject of worry, I finally unearthed, in my opinion, the greatest hidden secret about humans and his worry life that I have discovered. It is all packaged for readers in my book titled, The Worry Instinct.
(This book is only sold at the moment on our website here by the way) This is the purpose of this book – to shed more light for transformation from the deadly incarceration of excessive worrying, anxiety, and stress
You do not have to suffer forever. Anxiety is a part of our survival mechanism as humans, but it does not have to take over our entire life. You do not even have to lose anyone you love to anxiety disorders or stress. You can now be emotionally whole, capacitated, healthy and refreshed. You can pursue your dreams and achieve all of them. Spend more time with your loved ones and live in happiness, peace, and in a constant state of great satisfaction and gratitude. But this is a journey. Transformation from anxiety can't happen overnight. It takes time and great self-discipline to do some few things right daily.
Thank you for taking the time to get to know me a bit more. I really appreciate that!
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